Take Action Let’s wait and see what happens, this isn’t a good time. I want to think about it. I need more time first. I might do it wrong… I might make a mistake. I just don’t want to right now. I wish something would happen. I’m not quite ready to do that. I don’t want to talk about it.  Stalling, waiting, marking time, holding steady; does this sound familiar? All too often, most people would rather describe a problem than solve it.  The result… just more time rehearsing and refining their problem description skills without taking any action.   Do you want to get a new job, get a college degree, learn a language, lose weight, get in shape, fix your marriage, or play the piano?  Well, do you REALLY want to, or do you just want to talk about… or whine about it?   You must always ask yourself a fundamental question whenever you want to do anything!  ARE YOU WILLING TO PAY THE FREIGHT?  Will you pay the money, spend the time, expend the energy, learn how, risk failure, etc. to reach your goal?  Because your goal can only be achieved if you PAY THE FREIGHT! The key is to TAKE ACTION.  Do something, anything, any kind of action… and get the momentum going.  When you do, you have movement, which allows course correction along the way.  But, stalling and describing, rather than moving and solving, simply allows you to pass your life with time, rather than passing your time with life.   So, TAKE ACTION!  Confidence comes from DOING!  Mastery comes from learning, from discipline, from trusting your instincts and just digging in and doing it!  Make “Take Action” a habit and spread it around.

]]> http://drjmperry.wordpress.com/2011/02/08/the-perry-perspective-february-2011/feed/ 0 drjmperry http://drjmperry.wordpress.com/2010/12/15/embrace-the-obvious/ http://drjmperry.wordpress.com/2010/12/15/embrace-the-obvious/#comments Wed, 15 Dec 2010 18:16:10 +0000 Dr. JM Perry http://drjmperry.wordpress.com/2010/12/15/embrace-the-obvious/ Continue reading →]]> One of the most curious things about people is their difficulty in recognizing what’s right in front of their faces.  Do you ever notice that when you are looking for your keys, they are in your hand?  Or when you want to find your glasses, they are sitting right on top of your head?  If there is one thing I have learned in life, it is this:  THE MAGIC IS IN THE OBVIOUS.  That means:  the answer to your dilemma is often right in front of your face.  Your job is to look and discover it, and then… DO SOMETHING ABOUT IT! Example:  If you tend to be pessimistic, how much time are you spending complaining or feeling sorry for yourself?  If your business is doing poorly, how much are you contributing to poor customer service?  How much are you actually helping the customer be dissatisfied?  If your marriage is one where you feel emotionally malnourished, how much are you withholding nourishment yourself?  Or expecting nourishment from a spouse who is ill equipped to give it to you?  If you are tired and winded going up a flight of stairs, how much do you need to lose weight and get in shape? The answers are often so obvious we have trouble seeing them.  What is even more curious is that everyone else can see what’s right in front of you except you.  So, what to do?  Ask yourself regularly, “What is obvious here?  What do I need to see?  What can everyone else see here that might be difficult for me to see or accept?  What is right in front of my face?” Then, do something about it!  CHANGE SOMETHING!  Your behavior, your contribution, your relationships, your habits, something… anything!  Do something different and the situation will change.  Remember, you have much more power over yourself anyway. So, the message is:  Embrace the Obvious:  There’s magic when you recognize what is right in front of your face.  THEN DO SOMETHING ABOUT IT! If you have any questions, please let me, Dr. J. Mitchell Perry know or check out some of our life coaching products. ]]> http://drjmperry.wordpress.com/2010/12/15/embrace-the-obvious/feed/ 0 drjmperry http://drjmperry.wordpress.com/2010/11/01/the-perry-perspective-november-2010/ http://drjmperry.wordpress.com/2010/11/01/the-perry-perspective-november-2010/#comments Mon, 01 Nov 2010 23:07:39 +0000 Dr. JM Perry http://drjmperry.wordpress.com/2010/11/01/the-perry-perspective-november-2010/ Continue reading →]]> Hello Everyone!  Insanity!  Continuing to do the same thing with the same poor outcome with the illusion you will get a different outcome someday soon. Practice sanity! Changing your behavior first is the best way to cascade change around you.   Dr. Mitchell Perry     Change Yourself First How often do you find yourself complaining about someone you wish would change?  Do you wish your spouse would simply pick up the dirty clothes and put them in the hamper?  Your mother would quit being so critical about virtually everything?  Your boss would throw you a bone and give you a bit of credit?  Sound familiar? Notice how much energy you spend trying to get these people to change.  Your dedication to the “people-fixing rehabilitation project” is quite impressive, yet, as you know, this project is destined to fail.  THE MORE YOU TRY TO CHANGE SOMEONE, THE MORE THEY PUSHBACK, RESIST YOUR EFFORTS, AND STAY THE SAME.  What to do?  Change yourself and your behavior FIRST.  You know for certain that you have more power over changing your own behavior anyway.  Furthermore, when you change your own behavior, you frequently force those around you to adjust and change as well.  Consider the following examples:    You want your wife to quit being so critical of you.  Has it occurred to you that you help her remain critical because you are often critical of her?  So change yourself first.  Write your wife a letter telling her all the things you appreciate about her.  Then watch… her behavior is likely to change.  Furthermore, when she is criticizing, leave her alone with her misery.  Let her enjoy her unhappiness by herself.  She is more likely to choose having your company than risk losing it by continuing to criticize you.  You want your husband to pick up the laundry and put it in the hamper.  Yet every time he fails to do it you jump in and take care of it yourself.  You wonder why the behavior remains the same.  You are teaching him how to treat you.  What to do?  Change yourself first.  Put the clothes in a pile on his pillow.  Put the hamper on the front seat of his car, or file a lawsuit against your spouse with a charge of “irreconcilable laundry differences!”  Then watch!  Your spouse is likely to think twice about dirty laundry and expect you to always take care of it.  ]]> http://drjmperry.wordpress.com/2010/11/01/the-perry-perspective-november-2010/feed/ 0 drjmperry http://drjmperry.wordpress.com/2010/10/04/the-october-perry-perspective/ http://drjmperry.wordpress.com/2010/10/04/the-october-perry-perspective/#comments Mon, 04 Oct 2010 18:06:09 +0000 Dr. JM Perry http://drjmperry.wordpress.com/2010/10/04/the-october-perry-perspective/ Continue reading →]]> Hello Everyone! When you hire someone, you look at their background and skills, yet when you fire them, it is always about their character.  At the end of the day, it all comes down to Strength of Character.  The price you pay for poor character is enormous. Raise the bar — and life gets better!    Dr. Mitchell Perry    Share Your Strength of Character Every morning when you wake up and look at yourself in the mirror, what do you see?  Are you pleased or embarrassed?  Proud or ashamed?  Impressed or depressed?  Excited or bored?  Energetic or listless?  Engaged or isolated?  Powerful or weak?  How is your self-respect? Every morning, whether you like it or not, you wake up inside your own skin – which means you have to live with yourself, your feelings, your choices, and your behavior.  And, just like compounded interest in a bank account, there are long-term effects to those choices and behaviors.  At the end of the day, the measure of your life is inevitably determined by your CHARACTER and all its strengths and weaknesses.  So, what is the condition of your Character?  What are your basic governing values?  What are the moral principles by which you want to live?  The essential qualities for Strength of Character include:   INTEGRITY:  Honesty, legitimacy, the straight stuff, the full disclosure; the willingness to be unpopular at times, by telling the truth; the absence of lying, tap-dancing, pretending, spinning, distracting and avoiding.   RESPONSIBILITY:  Your life is completely your responsibility.  If life is going well for you, you probably made it happen.  If life is going poorly, you did that too.  The cards dealt to you are yours to play — good or bad.  So take accountability, make your choices, take your lumps and get on with it.  The energy you spend on whining, complaining, catastrophizing and awfulizing will be so much better spent on problem solving. GENEROSITY OF SPIRIT:  This part of your Strength of Character is about giving more than taking, contributing more than consuming, caring more than expecting, investing more than expensing.  This part of you is faith, living in the light, deriving meaning, and hearing the quiet. You get more than you give when you give more than you get.  (Hmmm… random acts of kindness).  So, establish a higher standard for yourself and your life.  Commit to INTEGRITY, RESPONSIBILITY and GENEROSITY OF SPIRIT… and then share your values and spread them around.  You are quite a role model!  Raise your BAR!    Strength of Character   Gaining competitive advantage by raising the bar        Strength of Character explores integrity, responsibility, and generosity of spirit in the business setting, driving a stake into the ground and defining the ethical standards by which business will need to be practiced in the coming decades.  This CD explains how leaders and workers can set a new course towards character standards that we all can agree are compelling and necessary.  The magic begins when individuals accept personal responsibility and start making ethical changes in themselves.  Strength of Character CD:   $19.95 Strength of Character MP3: $16.95 NOTICE!  Many of my recordings are available on iTunes and Amazon. “THE DR. MITCHELL PERRY SHOW” Common Sense 101   The Dr. Mitchell Perry Show: Common Sense 101 airs Saturdays from 9:00 am – 11:00 am (Pacific) on KVTA AM1520.  It is a little bit reasoning, a little bit education, alot of laughs, and a whole lot of fun!  Every Saturday morning Dr. Perry takes calls LIVE on his radio show on everything – including relationships, business advice, personal growth, and the ever popular… “Common Sense is very Uncommon!“ He has a knack for saying it like it is without beating down his listeners.  You can be sure that if there is an answer to your problem, Dr. Perry will help you figure it out.  Listeners call in to get advice, discuss the day’s events or simply to give their opinion on the latest topics. The number to call the studio live is toll free  877-34-PERRY (347-3779). You can also listen to the show by logging on to www.kvta.comand then click on “LISTEN LIVE.”  Cheers, Dr. Mitchell Perry JM Perry Learning ]]> http://drjmperry.wordpress.com/2010/10/04/the-october-perry-perspective/feed/ 0 drjmperry KVTA Logo http://drjmperry.wordpress.com/2010/09/07/navigating-the-choppy-waters-of-family-owned-business/ http://drjmperry.wordpress.com/2010/09/07/navigating-the-choppy-waters-of-family-owned-business/#comments Tue, 07 Sep 2010 23:26:54 +0000 Dr. JM Perry http://drjmperry.wordpress.com/2010/09/07/navigating-the-choppy-waters-of-family-owned-business/ ]]> ]]> http://drjmperry.wordpress.com/2010/09/07/navigating-the-choppy-waters-of-family-owned-business/feed/ 0 drjmperry http://drjmperry.wordpress.com/2010/09/02/winning-the-losing-game-on-weight/ http://drjmperry.wordpress.com/2010/09/02/winning-the-losing-game-on-weight/#comments Thu, 02 Sep 2010 01:06:48 +0000 Dr. JM Perry http://drjmperry.wordpress.com/2010/09/02/winning-the-losing-game-on-weight/ Continue reading →]]> Program Summary Research has shown that one in three Americans is obese. Obesity raises the risk of heart disease, some cancers, diabetes, arthritis, and being overweight raise blood pressure and cholesterol, which in turn can raise the risk of heart disease.  Improve your life with some of Dr. JM Perry’s proven Life Strategies. Earlier this year, the U.S. Center for Disease Control and Prevention said obesity caused about 25,814 deaths annually in the United States.  That is not the way to live your life. Lose weight now. Be more optimistic and happy in life. Check out Products » Sign Me Up »   Success Stories ]]> http://drjmperry.wordpress.com/2010/09/02/winning-the-losing-game-on-weight/feed/ 0 drjmperry Inclusion http://drjmperry.wordpress.com/2010/08/26/counter-productive-patterns-of-speech/ http://drjmperry.wordpress.com/2010/08/26/counter-productive-patterns-of-speech/#comments Thu, 26 Aug 2010 13:57:16 +0000 Dr. JM Perry http://drjmperry.wordpress.com/2010/08/26/counter-productive-patterns-of-speech/ Continue reading →]]> These are habits you have, the way you speak that is often a set-up for a let-down; you shoot yourself in the foot.  One that comes to mind is called “putting your present intentions in the past tense”.  What that means is you want to do something but you put it in the past tense that sounds like you wanted to do it. People will say, “I wanted to ask you,”  “what I wanted to say was,” “I was getting ready to say.”  When people say to me, “I wanted to ask you”.  I often respond , “well, do you still want to ask me?”  Because it is curious, if you say “I wanted to ask you, …”  it sounds like you don’t anymore. So what you want to do is take that present intentions and put it in the present tense.  So instead of saying “I just wanted to ask you …” say, “I want to ask you …”  It makes a BIG difference and you have a lot more power. Come check out more insight from Dr. JM Perry’s life strategies and life strategy products! ]]> http://drjmperry.wordpress.com/2010/08/26/counter-productive-patterns-of-speech/feed/ 0 drjmperry http://drjmperry.wordpress.com/2010/08/18/the-perry-plan-success-stories/ http://drjmperry.wordpress.com/2010/08/18/the-perry-plan-success-stories/#comments Wed, 18 Aug 2010 18:25:19 +0000 Dr. JM Perry http://drjmperry.wordpress.com/2010/08/18/the-perry-plan-success-stories/ Continue reading →]]> Come check out our real life Success Stories for The Perry Plan.  Real people losing real weight.  Not the fake pictures that you are used to seeing, but real stories right here!   Success Stories Before After “Robynet went from a size 24 to a size 4!” - Robynet, California Before After “Before the Perry Plan I was pretty seditary for years. After learning the skills of the Perry Plan I have walked every day for over a year without missing a day. I feel more powerful and have more control of my life.” - Don, California Before After “I found that the Perry Plan was absolutely, without a doubt, the weight-loss program for me! Because of it I went from a size 14 to a size 8!” .” - Stephanie, California Before After “I am a very busy mother of two. The Perry Plan has given me the power to control how I eat and how I feel about myself. Because of this program I have lost 35 pounds, 20 inches, and three sizes. I feel great!” - Rachelle, California Before After “Because of the Perry Plan I fit back into my favorite pants! The plan gives me more power and self-confidence than I have had in a long time. I am very excited!” - Linda, California Before After “Since starting the Perry Plan I have realized that my choices have been totally different when it comes to food. The Perry Plan has taught me a whole new set of skills that I can use for the rest of my life!” - Marilyn, California Before After “As a pharmacist I have seen many different weight loss programs but the Perry Plan has made the most sense. On top of losing weight, the Perry Plan has taught me to be a lot more confident and take more control of my life.” - Fred, California Contact Us JM Perry Learning, Inc. 3875-A Telegraph Road #170 Ventura, CA 93003 http://www.jmperry.com/ 1-877-PERRY PLAN 1-877-737-7975 Dr. J Mitchell Perry, CEO drmitchellperry@perryplan.com ]]> http://drjmperry.wordpress.com/2010/08/18/the-perry-plan-success-stories/feed/ 0 drjmperry